By Julie Morrell, MFT
Venting can feel good, but unfortunately it won’t take your life in a different direction. Well meaning friends are precious in providing a listening ear, however it’s very likely they do not have the skill or the expertise to help you make a change happen. With therapy, the therapist should be able to help you move away from that stuck feeling rather quickly. To the point where you can see what skills you might need to learn, or what trauma you might need to process and overcome.
And/or in addition a relationship resolution will begin to take place. To the point where you feel more skillful with your personal relationships and less bothered by people who in the past have annoyed you. In addition, there should be a sense on your part, that the therapist cares and understands your situation and your take on what’s going on in your life.
Counseling is a process of treatment where the therapist uses a variety of specialized caring techniques to help people overcome feelings of emotional pain, anxiety, depression, and relationship problems. Therapy can help you see your own path for self-improvement. On average my clients are often in therapy with me approximately 6 to 8 sessions.
Interestingly enough, those that are with me for less time, are often younger, and/or sometimes have had therapy before, but needed just a few more steps to connect the dots. Clients who are in therapy slightly longer typically have had some significant trauma in their past that needs to be processed.
If you recognize that you could benefit from seeking professional help, we will work together in identifying what your goals are, and you will see when you are making progress. As your personal therapy progresses you will begin to feel safe to talk more deeply about your more painful experiences in life that have caused you distress. Becoming free from distress means removing counter-porductive emotional patterns. And to begin to view yourself and others through a more compassionate perspective.
It is the beginning of talking about these things in therapy, you will eventually put them in a new and different perspective for yourself, that will help you make lasting positive changes in your life.
It takes great courage to take a deep look at ones life with another. I am blessed to work with the most courageous people on earth because taking a deep look into ones life and making changes is not for the faint at heart.
Julie Morrell, MFT
2207 Garnet Ave,
San Diego, CA 92109